I've still on my original bypass filter element which I installed back in 2010. Since then I've put at least 60k km on it. It will get renewed at the next oil change, as I'm out of Schaeffer 9000 and will switch over to my stash of Mobil 1 TDT. While not strictly on-topic, that changeover will be monitored via UOA to see how well it compares... S9000 works very nicely in my Golf, it's just a PITA to buy.
I see no reason to change the bypass filter at every other filter change and certainly not after only 20k miles. Changing filters is fun, but IMO a waste of money to change this one with so few kilometers on it. After 60k+ km, mine still gets hot and still flows oil.
Now the cabin filter, that one absolutely should get changed once a year, if not more often! Change that one and your HVAC filter in the house if you feel like changing filters.