Found the part
I was just recently replacing a cracked lower EGR pipe and noticed that both of the actuators for the EGR system were broken, one has just the connector end sheared off, the other the entire arm is gone. Other than what appears to be date codes the two parts are identical as far as I can test.
At ambient pressure the are fully extended and under vacuum they retract the same amount. The force to retract seems about the same from finger testing so if you we find one we've found both parts.
I've spent the morning searching and searching, complicated by the words "bypass" and "EGR" returning almost nothing but links to EGR delete/bypass kits; but I think I've found two sources:
http://www.idparts.com/intake-manifold-vacuum-actuator-a4-bew-p-4010.html
http://www.fixmyvw.com/egr-valve-actuator-for-alh-tdi/
ID Parts is at $63 now but includes the mounting bracket. Fix My VW is the bare part. They say ALH engine but their photo looks like the right thing.
These actuators twist-lock in to place so unless you lost or somehow damaged the mounting plate I don't see a need to get that new.
I'm ordering today and I'll report back whether they are match and operate as expected.
Below are the two broken actuators I've pulled from my '04 BEW.