Dad- did you ever get that car squared away? I read the OP and a few responses, not the whole thread.
Sounds to me like Electronic Gremlins, could be a device or more likely wires/connects. Hard to locate where those gremlins live. Guessing you already know, grounds are critical.
You can socket your own ECU, just need the part and someone who's accustomed to soldering small boards. I can recommend rocketchip.com, he's in eastern PA.
I imagine you're beyond that, but I'm with the wife, that's a great car.
Leaning toward the end of my story….I spent more than a year troubleshooting my electrical system including the grounds.
After I sent the ECU back to Malone the second time it was still randomly shutting the engine down. That’s after they said the ECU was fine. It’s so hard to replicate an intermittent electrical problem.
So finally getting fed up I bought an ECU from eBay with the exact same model number as mine. Installed it and the car ran fine for a few weeks.
I was desperately trying to prove - at least to myself - that the ECU was the issue. So I installed the Malone ECU once again and sat there with the engine running for an hour or so. I also found in VAG-COM where I could monitor the ECU ground in real time.
The engine started to falter - and little by little it got to the point where the engine died. I then carefully installed the eBay ECU and it fired right up and has been running great for the last 6 months or so. So this proves - at least to me - that the ECU got compromised so how when in the hands of Malone.
What was really frustrating - when it died on the road I had to walk home (no cell service where I live) and call the roll back. Each time he brought it home for me, once off the truck, the car would fire right up. The first time it happened I worked on it where it died along the road for 3 days and no matter what I did could not get it to start. Again, when towed home, I could start it right away.
So my saga is over with I feel. Except for the part I am back to square one after spending $700 and a year of frustration and pulling my hair out.