ALright some inconsistencies found. The schematic( the 'Before' and 'After' ones) have grey/red and yellow/blue wires mislabeled between pins 3 and 9, and the schematic picture shows blue/yellow wire for reverse and red/gray for cruise but the instructions call out the relay pins and colors correctly for their colors, they don't match the schematic.
So, I rang out the blue yellow for reverse at the 8-pin( the TR plug), and used the proper 12V supply...and of course joined the blue/yellow wire to the relay#4 black/blue wire inside. The white starter interlock was fine, right pins and colours called out. The red-gray I have left for the cruise/blue switch...I have a feeling this is where the trouble is going to start...but I think I can ring out the red/gray and put it to my ECU pin 66 properly...
Soooo...I re-built the connections based on their pin numbers from the text of Boertje's text instructions. His wire colours matched mine, and the schematic is slightly off on its colours. I have the TCM/ECM work to do and install the clutch pedal bits. More as proof it works, when it works...

cheers,
Douglas