Well, a solid day of running around today and the car started fine every time. Wont call it fixed quite yet, but looking positive. Regardless, thanks for all the help and input. I was able to return the incorrect starter with no issue.
My next issue is going to be this glow plug error. I get a code on every plug, it seems. And a CEL.
I have checked and there is consistant low resistance at the plugs and also if i go from relay harness through plugs, it is still consistantly low and the same. I have not actually tested the relay, although it really is not all that old. I have a couple other relays i picked up from parts cars and have swapped it (not a real test, really) and seen no differnce. What comes before the relay? And could something before the relay cause all plugs to fault at once? I have not checked for voltage at the harness plugs when cycling plugs, but will try that this weekend yet.