it's not at all unrealistic. you just have to make pump/timing maps for each fueling combination. there really aren't *all* that many that it's not do-able. at least for what 98% of people run. you have 10mm + 11mm. for the most part its ~.170 (stock manual), .185s, .195s, .205s, .215s, .230s, .260s. thats 14 basic combinations (of course there are other sizes people make, .210s, .220s, .240s....). you already have decently filled in factory maps for 11mm/.138 automatic, 10mm/.170s manual, AHH for 11mm/.158, AFN with 10mm + .205s, a transporter uses 11mm/.215s.. etc. while it's not *easy* by any means, you have some good starting low points + some mid points from which to work your way up, and then fill in the middle ones. i mean, if you've got a known good maps for 11mm/.158s, 11mm/.215s, you can make a pretty decent guess at 11mm/.230s if you know what you're doing (user robnitro made one and posted it up years ago). and then test it. now with those 3, it's relatively "easy" to make the maps for .210s, .215s, .220s...
but now you have a good base, then you can make better boost maps for real IQ values with actual AFR calculations etc. you can then also better compare timing values between them, because everything's "real" (or at least as close as one can get without bosch lab equipment). now of course there are still many other details to fill in, but at least you're working in reality, and things actually become easier to make sense out of and test. expirement with different amounts of boost vs timing, for example. it's very time consuming to get perfection, and without a dyno and a solid 100% perfect healthy tdi you can swap pump/nozzles around and test, it can be nerve-wracking. so i'm not trying to get the impression its easy. but it's very doable.
back when i had tunes by the pros, i felt they were decent. always had huge boost spikes tho when mashing the pedal. wasted a lot of time messing around with boost valves... but i remember at first, i was blown away. i was under the impression for a long time they did a lot more with the tuning than they actually do.... i was also rather naive then...
also, you don't necessarily need to have a dyno or a "specialist" nearby.. things can be done remotely....