Way back in the dark ages, called the dark ages because it was in the days of the knights (sorry, I couldn't resist), automotive computers were made with memory consisting of PROM (programmable read only memory). The car's computer was programmed by burning a one-time only memory chip and inserting it into a socket on the motherboard.
Then, we mere mortals were given the EPROM (electronically programmable read only memory), which allowed the memory chip to be rewritten many times by erasing them. This was followed by the EEPROM (electrically erasable programmable read only memory) and the real show was on.
The rest is packaging. That is, at some point, the memory became integrated into the CPU chip instead of in a separate chip. When this happened, the board was no longer programmable separately from the motherboard, and even though you could no longer easily swap chips from the socketed memory chip, nor remove the chip, reprogram it, and then resolder it on to the motherboard (hence the term 'chipping the computer'), you could still reprogam the computer by using equipment that interfaced with the board and did it all without having to solder anything.
Well.
In the same manner as 'dialing a phone' is still used even though people haven't used actual rotary dials in decades, 'chipping' the car is no longer done.
Chipping ended a couple of decades ago for these cars.
Yours, a 2002 by your signature, can be modified via buying a programmer and buying a modified program load to insert, or by physically removing your ECU box and mailing it to a reprogrammer.
You only need to choose who to do the modifications after figuring out what you want done, and then picking the method you want to use.
It sounds like you just need to do some research and then decide which way you want to go.
Good luck, lots of choices out there...
Cheers,
PH
PS: Sorry for the verbosity in my answer, just was thinking it might be fun to recap for some people who don't know the history.