What you really need at this point is someone that can accurately diagnose your turbo situation. VW dealers are notorious for replacing turbos with crappy reman units when there was nothing wrong with the original turbo. The profit margin on those must be spectacular. STAY AWAY from the dealer!
I would find a mechanic recommended by this forum in your area, a TDI specialist, and somehow get the car to him. That's really the only way you'll know what's going on. But, you can also try to self diagnose with help from this forum, start by reading several threads on turbo failure (they're all over the forum) and then by taking photos and asking questions.
The usual mode of failure for these turbos is that the bearing inside the spinning core gets damaged, allowing oil to go through the turbo directly into the intake. In extreme cases, this results in the engine running uncontrollably on it's own oil until it locks up, usually with bent connecting rods and/or damaged pistons.
But, this is usually accompanied by belching dark smoke out the tailpipe. So you might have something else going on.
If this were my car, I would start by learning everything you can about the turbo on this forum, then I'd get my hands a little dirty trying to figure out for myself what's going on. You can easily remove the pipe from the turbo to the intercooler, then inspect the turbo shaft for play. You can also see if a large quantity of oil has accumulated in the intercooler. There are many threads that explain this in better detail.
It's almost always going to be cheaper to fix your car than get a new one. The biggest problem with TDIs is finding a mechanic that knows how to fix them. That's where this forum can be very useful. Best of luck!