I did drive another identically optioned car to prove to the dealership I wasn't imagining it. The fact that this trans is quirky makes proving the problem much more difficult. I know I'm not imagining it- the most noticeable part of the problem is it not cutting throttle instantly when I let off the pedal. It's brief, but it is a very odd feeling- especially in traffic on the highway and the car continues to pull me toward the car I'm following before I can hit the brake.
I'm going to take it into the same dealer or possibly a different VW dealer today. My attorney did get an offer from VW but it was only for $1000; he said I'm technically out of the lemon law by mileage so I should just accept the offer. It stinks though because I owe almost $20k on the car, put $4k down, and I am concerned about getting enough to pay it off even if I were to sell it. Question; does this car have a throttle valve/cable? I'm thinking it's something like that or a bad sensor or egr, not a mechanical problem in the transmission.