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Fuel filter was not bone dry, only top of it was dry, I removed the fitting for fuel return to tank hoses with 2 blue arrows in and out and put maybe 1 oz of fuel in filter before it would take no more. Supply hose to IP was full when I removed that hose.
I have been through the FAQs multiple readings just in case I missed something but will go again.
Engine crank is strong and bat voltage is SAT.
No check engine lite for fault indication, does come on with start attempt along with glow and water tenp.
Following extended crank 30 sec or so black smoke is coming from exhaust, it's trying but just not making it.
Installed new o rings that came with the filter, tee fitting is snug, Vag Com listed nearby to check timing did not answer my email a week ago maybe old email address looks like I might have to carry to dealer.
I tried to find a 109 relay at local part house since it's function not idfentified they could not pin it down or cross to VW's PN.
Last maint action as listed before was all filts and time belt change had full set of MN tools and I was anal about keeping timing marks at setting, operated successfully for a week, no fault indications during that week.
I've owned since Sep. 2003 got used at 63K mile, now at 73 K I think this was 1st time belt change according to VW owner maint log book.
Prior to belt change there were a couple of incidents of erratic idle engine rev up and down on it's own accord 1000-1500 rpm while stopped at traffic light or parking lot. A couple of times engine shut down all together but restarted, dealer could not find any code and problem "went away".
Same symptoms Friday shutdown at stop while driving then restart, Saturday no start condition after normal shutdown in parking lot. Had it towed home for trouble shooting.