Is on your left by the timing belt as you face the engine. Cylinder no.1 by design convention is always by the timing drive, be that belt, chain or gear (nose of the engine) except the odd engine i.e W8. Cylinder no.4 is at the rear (tail) of the engine. However, the glow plug wiring sequence is reversed. So, gp wiring no.1 corresponds to cyl. no.4, GPW no.2 to cyl. no.3, GPW no.3 to cyl. no.2, and GPW no.4 to cyl. no.1.
If in doubts, unplug one GPW. Connect a VAG-COM, then scan the engine for DTC w/o having the engine running. This will throw an engine fault
code. Compare the fault code to the following codes
SAE / VAG / DESCRIPTION
P0670 / 17054 / GLOW PLUG MODULE CONTROL UNIT
P0671 / 17055 / GLOW PLUG CIRCUIT 1 (Q10) ON CYLINDER 4
P0672 / 17056 / GLOW PLUG CIRCUIT 2 (Q11) ON CYLINDER 3
P0673 / 17057 / GLOW PLUG CIRCUIT 3 (Q12) ON CYLINDER 2
P0674 / 17058 / GLOW PLUG CIRCUIT 4 (Q13) ON CYLINDER 1
I hope this helps