Check out SQS Racing. They do some great work on gear sets and gearbox reinforcement.I like to stick to OEM ECU's just so we are improving the skills that can be carried over to customers cars, plus standalone is expensive!!
We stripped the teeth off 4th for the 2nd time, must be a casing flex issue.
There was a member here that went big turbo on his common rail a couple years back that had issues blowing out syncros in 4th & 5th. More info in post #133:
http://forums.tdiclub.com/showthread.php?t=367577&page=9
SQS Racing's site:
http://www.sqsracing.com