Your car has a Jatco transmission in it. Jatco (which originally meant Japan Automatic Transmission Co.) was formed in the early '70s by Nissan and Mazda as a joint venture to develop and build automatic transmissions.
Later, as Mazda was largely taken over by Ford, Nissan became the sole proprietor of Jatco, then Mitsubishi decided to give up their own automatic transmission pursuits and merger with Jatco.
Jatco makes or has made a lot of automatic transmissions for lots of companies over the years. Obviously most Nissan products use them, as well as lots of Mazdas, most all Subarus, and others like Jaguar and Volkswagen.
By friendly I mean something that works well with the Jatco transmission in your car. VAG has a BUNCH of ATFs because they use a BUNCH of different autoboxes, some are their own in-house units (like the 01M and 02E), some are supplied by ZF (like the 01V and 01L) and others are supplied by Aisin (like the 09G) which itself is majority owned by Toyota.
Since there are so many autoboxes, using so many different ATFs, it is important to know which one to use. And if you get it from a dealer, it is in my opinion overpriced and in the case of your Jatco unit, is not anything "special" other than it comes in a VW-labeled bottle. You can get it at other locations for half the price. I gave you the brand and type we use here. And if you google "Idemitsu Type-J" you can find lots of places that sell it.
Idemitsu makes all sorts of ATFs for all sorts of [mainly Japanese] applications. The Toyota (Aisin) stuff is Type TLS. But you want the Type-J.
