OBD = On Board Diagnostics
TCM = Transmission Control Module
I will assume your gear indicator is all lit up, no matter what gear is selected, correct? That means that, for whatever reason (we can only guess), the TCM has placed the transmission in limp mode, which means unregulated line pressure (bangs into gear, because unregulated means full line pressure), reverse (works fine), and fixed fourth gear (slow response in drive).
Your TCM either knows what is wrong and has set a DTC (Diagnostic Trouble Code), or has become damaged or is no longer working (in which case, the Engine Control Module will have a DTC for no communication with the TCM).
You need an appropriate scan tool to find out where to start.