My daily is a BHW, balance shaft deleted 2005 Passat.
It does vibrate more than a pendulum mounted BRM or ALH (both of which I have owned, and several of the ALH variety), but the mount system is completely different.
Is it enough for me to install the gear driven balance shaft module I have sitting on the shelf - not yet.
Every car is different from what I can tell - some better, some worse.
For my car, I think I am in the middle of the pack - it is not what I would call smooth - it is a 4 cylinder diesel engine after all. It is not objectionable (IMHO) either.
The only time it becomes "annoying" (in quotes, because it really isn't all that bad) is in the dead of winter, and I get right on the highway into traffic that makes the engine drop into that 2000 rpm range. Once the engine mounts warm up, the transmitted vibrations reduce back to "acceptable" levels.
Feel free to come to Toronto if you want to drive my car.