I don't do SEMs, but I have a engineering background in engines. I might make a few observations. First, 165,000 miles in a turbo with moving vanes isn't too bad, especially if it has been hot-rodded. Second, the turbo will see more heat with the chip and injectors and if it has no EGR, then it is hot and highly oxidizing in there. Less boost and EGR is a lot better for the turbo. Get nice oxidized bits of metal in a sliding mechanism, (versus soot) and you will accelerate wear. The aforementioned extra heat and oxygen might have been the contributing factor to the formation of the abrasive?
10 years ago you would have been happy to get 165,000 on the turbo and you would have had a crappy internal wastegate, not VNT. I suspect that we are near the edge for longevity with this turbo size and power output, at least as far as living much past a warranty period at an elevated power level. perhaps this is part of why we get 90bhp and Europe can get more? I am assuming that the warranty period in Europe is less generous, but I am not sure on that point.