Robert, the pins are as follows.
Outer pin A: BROW+RING
Outer pin B: BROW+RING+BULLET
Inner pin A: BROW+RING
Inner pin B: BULLET
Existing wire to left outer light will connect to pin A and the left light input on the Curt.
Existing wire to right outer light will connect to pin A and the right light input on the Curt.
Pin A on the outer lights will jump to pin A on the inner lights (clone function for parking lights as well as brake lights and turn signals). This is basically how your car is functioning now, except you're taking Pin B on the outer lights and connecting it to A and B on the inner lights.
Now here is where the Curt controller comes in. In order to get the bullet lights to be on ONLY when the turn signal or brake is activated, we will use the left stop/turn output and the right stop/turn output from the Curt and connect them to pin B on the outer fixtures and pin B on the inner fixtures.
The way the Curt controller works is, it outputs 12v on the parking light wire any time it sees reduced voltage on the input side (stock Passat parking lights). When the input side rises to full voltage (stock Passat brake/turn lights), the controller outputs 12v on the stop/turn wires.
The original wires to the inner fixtures will be hooked up to dummy loads to prevent lamp faults in the computer.
The only problems that we might run into are a delay within the Curt controller that makes a slight delay in the bullet light activation, or the potential for backfeeding through pin A on the outer lights and potentially setting a fault code in the computer.
Inner tail light, pin A (BROW+RING)
Inner tail light, pin B (BULLET)