Since you're talking about a Mk3 tdi I will share what I have with you, which I think is pretty accurate.
Pin 43 (of the 68 pin ECU) is VSS and goes to TV13 junction block. This is shared with at least one other connection that originates at W1 (harness W position 1) and internally in the fuse box connects to U2/2 and out as lilac wire to T28/7.
It's been a while since I've dug through the harness so the lilac color might be in error. The wire from W1 is blue / white though, that I am sure of.
You will need to find a suitable W harness or make the physical connection between the two blue / white wires some other way.
With TDI you don't need the W connection at the alternator, the ECU will calculate engine rpms with data from the crank position sensor and the needle lift sensor. How or what it does I don't know, but that's what I have read elsewhere.
EDIT: As for the PP comment about pin 43 going to G1/9 that would be in error. Mk3 (in the US) have no ECU wire running to harness G1/9 but the B4 Passat cars do, and that comes from pin 60 at the ECU which is the MIL.
Steve